I recently watched an interview with Kristen Bell on Re-Thinking with Adam Grant and she said something that I haven’t been able to stop thinking about:

“Over explaining is a form of begging.”

She didn’t elaborate (so as not to beg), and I have my own interpretation to which I will over explain (GASP) in this blog post.

The truth is, I believe so many of us do this without even realizing it.

We over-explain our decisions.
Our boundaries.
Our intentions.
Our pricing.
Our “no.”
Even our needs.

We’re not dishonest or unclear people, and somewhere along the way, we learned that if we could only explain ourselves well enough, maybe we’d avoid judgment, disappointment, conflict, or misunderstanding.

Maybe people would approve.
Maybe they’d stay.
Maybe they’d finally understand where we’re coming from.

And honestly? I think most people do this from a very human place.

We crave connection.
We want clarity.
We need to feel safe and understood.

And over-explaining has a strange way of doing t...

Most of us instinctively avoid friction, steering clear of the discomfort it brings. It’s natural to want smooth, effortless interactions and harmonious relationships. And that is not always possible. What if I told you that friction is actually a gift, a powerful indicator that can reveal crucial insights about ourselves? I love friction, because of what it tells me about my own inner world and what’s important to me not because I relish discomfort (although I’ve been told I am really good at having tough conversations – if you need help with this reach out, I’m always up for a challenge).

Friction as a Signal of Bigger Aspirations

Think back to a recent situation where you felt frustrated—perhaps at work, with a team member, or even in a personal relationship. That discomfort you felt wasn’t random; it was a signal from within. Friction often arises when there’s a gap between our current reality and a deeper, unfulfilled aspiration. It’s our inner compass pointing out that somet...