I recently watched an interview with Kristen Bell on Re-Thinking with Adam Grant and she said something that I haven’t been able to stop thinking about:

“Over explaining is a form of begging.”

She didn’t elaborate (so as not to beg), and I have my own interpretation to which I will over explain (GASP) in this blog postJ.

The truth is, I believe so many of us do this without even realizing it.

We over-explain our decisions.
Our boundaries.
Our intentions.
Our pricing.
Our “no.”
Even our needs.

We’re not dishonest or unclear people, and somewhere along the way, we learned that if we could only explain ourselves well enough, maybe we’d avoid judgment, disappointment, conflict, or misunderstanding.

Maybe people would approve.
Maybe they’d stay.
Maybe they’d finally understand where we’re coming from.

And honestly? I think most people do this from a very human place.

We crave connection.
We want clarity.
We need to feel safe and understood.

And over-explaining has a strange way of doing t...